Keep Your Dreams Alive

"Don't dream your life, live your dream"

Like the tune by Linda Ronstadt, “a dream is a wish your heart makes.” To lose sight of your dreams is to pass away a little yourself. It implies closing down the part of you that can soar above the reality of your present life to see amazing new opportunities.

Whenever she strolls down a road, a buddy of mine notices architectural details, forms, and colors. As a kid she fantasized about being an indoor designer, yet her parents—Italian immigrants—discouraged her from pursuing exactly what they felt was a troubled way to make a living. “I was crushed,” she says, and her dreams simply passed away.

Our dreams can be easily broken. It is important not to discuss them at an early stage to any individual whom we notice will certainly not encourage us to follow them. Other people often forecast their own concerns and doubts onto us, especially if they are jealous of our own zeal and determination to make our dreams a reality.

I have known since I was a teenager that I desired to be a fiction writer. No one in my household encouraged me to follow my dream, due to the fact that anything in the arts was thought to be unreliable. For years I composed and sold brief stories and novels while also working full time at my “other” job. As rejection slips started to pile up, it ended up being a growing battle to keep going after my dream.

By then I recognized that favorable support from various other writers was a requirement for my own success and signed up with one composing group after another up until I found the right team. When seeking a dream, many professionals in the goals accomplishment field emphasize the importance of having support. Isolation is a killer of dreams, according Barbara Sher, job therapist as well as author of 5 awesome books including Wishcraft and It’s Only Too Late If You Don’t Start Now.

Valerie Young, owner of the website and newsletter, “Changing Course” explains that help could originate from a number of resources including mentors, role models and coworkers. Although good friends could make a distinction, she says, you skyrocket when you use the wide network of help available to you.

To summarize, listed below are the actions I adhered to in building my dream. These can help you as you seek to follow your dreams also, especially when you are trying to earn a living and/or starting a family at the same time, and do not have any resources set up to help you get going.

Action #1: Separate from “Debbie-Downers”.

Action #2: Don’t stop believing.

Action #3: Don’t let your “real job” stop you from doing what your heart desires.

Action #4: Rally your support team.

What are your dreams, and how are you making them a reality? Tell us in the comments below!

What I’m Gonna Do When I’m Making Millions

 

This is a contribution from Whitney Smith, out of Los Angeles, CA. Whitney has dreams and goals that we fully support here at Popsquire. If you like what she has to say, leave a comment below with some words of encouragement!

Office Space is one of my favorite movies of all time. I used to work at an office in a gray cubicle, so I know all about it. Actually, one day, our office held a “smash the copiers” party where they took a bunch of old copy machines outside and let everyone smash them with baseball bats. Good times…

Boy did I hate gray cubicle land though. And the place I worked at was Office Space to a “T.” We were able to find an employee in our building that fit the personality for just about every character in that movie. If we had decided to do an Office Space theme for Halloween, people probably would have mistaken our crew for the actual movie crew.

What am I doing now, you ask? Not working in gray cubicle hell, that’s for sure. I work from home now, doing lots of different things. Mostly just trying to stay alive, but my goal is to build up a lucrative residual income, somewhere in the millions-of-dollars-per-year range. And when I achieve that goal, there are a few things I’m planning to do. Just about all of them are atypical for someone with millions of dollars. Such as…

1. I will live in a normal-sized house. I will not buy a mansion. I plan to keep my family small – 2 or 3 kids, max. Why the hell would I want to live in a mansion with a couple of toddlers running around? They’re liable to get lost in a house that big. Not only that, there’s a lot more territory for them to destroy. I can see it now. Poop smeared on the walls over the drawing they just finished with the crayons I tried to hide from them the day before. They’re smiling at me with guilty eyes while our dog eats play dough off the stained carpet. Gross.

Seriously though, millionaires waste so much money on shit they don’t need. Pimping out cribs that are way too big for any normal-sized person to live in. The most pimping I’ll do is installing a concrete kitchen island that my husband will appreciate being able to cook for me on. 😉 (By the way, that link was a shout-out to my buddy Adam. He owns his own concrete biz and is awesome at what he does, so if you need a concrete countertop contractor, give him a call and tell him I sent you!)

2. I will travel the world. I’ve only been outside the U.S. twice. Sad, isn’t it? I want to spend at least a month in Europe. Fiji, Tahiti and Hawaii are also on my bucket list (though not necessarily in that order.) I’d also like to go to the Maldives and St. Lucia if time permits. And if I’m making millions, it will.

3. I will start a non-profit organization of some sort. Not sure what it’ll be yet, but I do have a goal to do something beneficial for those less-fortunate, especially homeless people in my city. And I don’t mean some bullshit non-profit that doesn’t really do anything. I want to make an actual difference in the world. Or at least in the city of Charlotte.

4. I will help someone else build their dream. If I succeed at building my own business and build the life of my dreams, the least I can do is help someone else do the same, right? I’m already on a mission to start doing that now, but it’s a little more difficult. People don’t trust you until after you make it. Until then, you don’t have much credibility. So I’m going to focus on me for now, but as soon as I get in a comfortable place where I’m really moving forward, I’ll help someone else do it too.

5. I will pay off my debt and take care of my parents. They did so much for me when I was younger, and I know that if they could, they’d pay off my debts for me. But unfortunately, they aren’t in the greatest financial situation right now, which is another reason why I’m trying to succeed at building my own business. I have lots of debt that I need to pay off, and once I’m stable again, my ‘rents will be taken care of, fo’ sho’.

The best part about becoming a millionaire will be never having to work for someone else again, especially in gray cubicle hell. I was pretty determined to get out of there. The next step is to make sure I never have to go back.

Wish me luck…

Pixie Me Rollin…

PEACHES AND PIXIE GELDOF

This is a guest post from Gwen Payne, a short-haired gal out of Dallas, TX. Thanks, Gwen, for your fabulous insight!

I started growing out my pixie cut after having a baby one year ago. 3 months in, I thought I’d be funny and start a social networking support group for girls with short hair. It blew up pretty fast, so now I’m entertaining the thought of building a blog that will serve as a resource for girls with pixie cuts who are looking for style tips, grow-out tips, product recommendations, etc.

I threw around a couple of domain names. Hubs suggested “pixiemerollin.com.” It’s not the one I went with, but the more I say it, it does have a nice ring to it. Right?

Pixie Me Rollin’. Maybe when I get famous, I’ll chop off my hair again, buy that domain, and use it as my personal brand website.

All my fans can pixie me rollin’ in a chauffeured black car. We’ll travel the country doing charity concerts. We’ll rent a hotel room and buy dinner for the homeless guy who’s begging on the corner outside the venue. We’ll talk to him about his hopes and dreams and figure out a way to help him get back on his feet.

It’s one person, but that person is significant. His life matters. Everyone’s life matters. He should experience joy and peace and grace, not because he deserves it (none of us do), but because his creator wants to give him that. We’ll share that good news and help him put together a plan and budget that’ll take him from street to sleek in one year or less.

Those are the kinds of things I dream about. I bet Tupac dreamed about stuff like that too. Just sayin’ ;).

I’m not on the streets, but I did recently move back in with the rents so I could save money and build my dreams. Hubs and I gave ourselves one year to do it. And believe it or not, this blog is one of the tools we’re using to help us get there.

It’ll be fun to look back at this post one year from now and compare where we are at that point to where we were when I wrote it. Until then… just pixie me rollin…